Liberty For Ladies – How Women Can Be Free

Hello, my name is Mike and I am NotYourAverageMillennial

This post is for the ladies which I decided to title “Liberty For Ladies”, I was inspired to write this post because I think that it is important for women to promote the idea of liberty. This is just my opinion, but I feel that women are more concerned with security than liberty. Now this may not be the case for all women, but it may be safe to say that most women think more of security. This could be due to continuous conditioning from parents, the media, friends, and society.

My goal today is to have more ladies appreciate liberty even more. You may feel like you do already and I’m not ignoring this. However, I will share with you some ways that you can increase liberty within your mind and then live it in this world. Always remember that liberty begins with liberty of thought.

1) You Don’t Need a Man To Validate Who You Are

Ladies, you were probably told all your life to find a man who makes good money, marry him, and have his children. Now let me be very clear: I find nothing wrong with this. However, if you feel that you will never be good enough if you never get married or have children, then I have to shoot straight and tell you that you are not thinking for yourself.

Now most likely you will disagree with me and swear that you are but if you think about what I tell you, then you may discover that you were not thinking for yourself all along. Put it this way, did you always have this want to find a mate, get married, and have kids? I mean did this idea pop into your head organically? Is it possible that this line of thinking formed over time due to what society drilled into your head through the media, or due to what your mother may have told you, or your friends? You don’t have to answer. Just think to yourself is it possible that the want grew from outside influences.

It could be possible that this isn’t what YOU really want. Maybe you have goals and dreams that marriage and a family would not allow you to pursue. Once again, I will say, if you want to live a traditional life of a wife and a mother, then by all means go for it. But do not let society tell you that you are wrong if you have other plans. After all, you have a right to live life the way you want just like a man does.

2) Don’t Feel Like You Have To Be Sexual To Gain Approval

As a man I find women to be a pleasing sight to behold and the touch of a woman is soft and nurturing. I also am all for sex because, well, I’m a man. However, some women feel like they must be sexual in order to get ahead. In today’s world this may work, but in the end would it be safe to say that a woman may regret her decision to use her sexuality in order to get what she wants? Maybe I’m wrong. Some women would say: “If you got it, flaunt it.”

If I were a woman, I would rather someone values me for my mind or the principles I live by rather than by my body. Remember ladies, you’re not just a piece of meat that someone can put on the grill in order to satisfy someone’s appetite. The media knows that sex sells, which is why they take advantage of the sexuality of women. This can be degrading and women have more to offer than just a “big butt and a smile”.

3) Shopping Won’t Make You Feel Better

It seems as if most women like to ease their pain by going shopping. This has been called retail therapy. Again, in moderation, shopping is not necessarily a bad thing. Who doesn’t like to get new things now and then? But how does owning multiple pairs of shoes making you feel better.

I have learned that the more things you have, the less happy you are. Again this is conditioning from the media, society and friends. Ladies are more inclined to materialism. This is not to insult women, because there are men that have this issue as well. However, shopping is more of an activity that women are more likely to overindulge in.

If a man goes shopping, usually he will go in to the store he wants, buy exactly what he wants and then leave. A woman is more inclined to looking around and most likely buying more than she needs. Simply put, women are likely to impulse shop.

For women to be liberty minded, they have to come to terms that more stuff will never make them happier. They have to break the shopping spell.

4) You Have Natural Beauty, Don’t Use Make-Up as a Crutch!

I understand a woman’s need to feel beautiful. I also must be very clear once again that you are free to use make-up because that is the great thing about liberty. You can do as you please provided that you are not keeping anyone else from liberty. However, most women won’t leave the house without make-up. Again, this is something that society has conditioned women to do and to believe that it is something that they cannot live without.

Painting your face with chemicals just to get attention is not a sign of someone who is thinking liberty. On the contrary, their thinking is under the control of societal standards and the approval of others. Liberty is being who you are unrestricted by the thoughts of others.


To my female readers, I hope I didn’t come off as harsh or confrontational. My point of writing this article is to plant a seed that no one may have planted as yet. In order to live liberty it must live in the mind first. You will never be able to be truly free unless you free your mind from the chains of societal standards. This is very different from the typical thinking of women, but imagine what it can do for society if women changed their thinking towards a path of liberty.




20 thoughts on “Liberty For Ladies – How Women Can Be Free

  1. You weren’t harsh at all. I actually felt good reading this. Because it made me realize that I am not like all the other girls (the women you are talking about). I don’t want a guy for his money, but his heart and his morals. I shop for things that I need before I shop for something that I want. Needs should always go before wants. I can’t stand make-up. Plus I’ve been told that I look good without it (lol). Most of the things that us girls believe in, has been advertised to us. That’s why I choose not to ride the wave. I rather be myself.

    Thank you so much for writing this Mike. It’s really nice to hear something meaningful and positive coming from a guy, especially nowadays.


    1. I am glad that you feel that way Emonne. If more ladies thought the way you did we would achieve liberty at break-neck speed. Ladies should be exactly who they want to be, not what outside influences like the media say you should be. You are a shining example of what I explained in this article. Keep doing you!

  2. Although you provide some thought provoking statements, I am a little conflicted. One on side , I agree that traditional societal norms in America have conditioned women to pursue security over liberty. Then on the other side, today’s society promotes the free and independent woman who doesn’t need a man. I believe this is the reason why divorce rates and relationships are here today and gone tomorrow. So much emphasis is placed on individualism that roles in a relationship are not clearly defined. Your thoughts.

    1. I can understand why you are a bit conflicted James. I also see your point of view regarding divorce rates and how America does promote the independent woman. I guess the best way I can answer this is that it depends on what path a woman would like to walk on. I am definitely not saying that a woman should never get married and have a family because I do see the benefits in that path. My argument would be that if a woman chooses not to go in that direction then they should be able to do so without society telling that woman she is wrong to do that. The great thing about liberty is that you can choose whatever path makes you happy.

      Another point that I can make here is that you should not depend on another person for happiness. This could apply to men or women. Divorce and turbulent relationships usually happen because there was no mutual happiness within the relationship. But one major cause for divorce and relationships are usually due to finances. This should be taken into consideration as well. I hope I was able to elaborate better for you. Thanks for the comment!

  3. Well, this post certain is a positive post specialize for women. Nowadays women are quiet competent and successful lady doesn’t need a men. Because “some men” do have a harsh point of view to lady which is kinda disrespectful to ladies. I wouldn’t say all but certain only. Don’t get me wrong.

    1. Yes that is true Jaden. I believe that men and women should have equal opportunity. Not all women want to be mothers and we should accept that. A woman should determine her destiny, not society. Thanks for the comment!

  4. Kalli

    Great post Mike,

    I believe that all women are different. Being a woman myself I consider myself a down to Earth country girl. I personally love being with my husband because he makes me laugh and loves me for who I am. I am not like other women who feel that wearing makeup is what makes them beautiful or they have to wear makeup because they were brought up like that. I do agree that women do not have to have a man in her life in order to be happy. However, in my case I married my high school sweetheart and even though we have our ups and downs like all couples, I would not trade him for the world. There are some men out in the world that are not the greatest and women I believe do not need these men, which is where I believe that these women do not need a man to be happy. Anyways I enjoyed reading your post and I really liked how you decided to write about women. Great job overall on your site as well. Keep it up.


    1. Hello Kalli! First of all I am glad that you have found happiness with your high school sweetheart. You also make a great point that some men are not good men that would treat a woman right and I’m glad that you resonated with what I said about women wearing makeup. Yes I felt that I had to write a post for women who are interested in walking in the path of liberty. Thank you for your comment!

  5. I found your article valuable for both men and women. I think women are no longer relying as much on a man to signify their worth, however. Getting married and raising a family is just not what some of us women want. Many women give into this way of life because that has always been the way it is supposed to be. There is so much more to life!

    1. Very true Sandra. It really comes down to “to each their own and that is what liberty is all about. Some may not fully agree with what I say here but may pick up something interesting that will resonate with them and then they can apply it to their life. I am glad that you choose to live your life on your terms and I wish you much success in all your endeavors. Thank you for your comment!

  6. Brandon

    This is an interesting article and definitely an eye-opener. With equality being pushed more and more in 2018, these types of articles make more sense than ever before. It’s okay that women don’t need men because some women don’t want a man no matter what, yet they have their friends and family pushing the whole “you need a man in your life” mentality on them on a daily basis. It drives them crazy and they eventually they close them self off from the world cause they can’t take it anymore.

    1. Absolutely true Brandon. And this also is true for men as well because MGTOW (Men Gong There Own Way) has also been a response to where men do not want to deal with the headache of having to deal with women. Personally I can understand why men would feel this way because they believe the system to favor women and I would even suggest that men go MGTOW until they have their individual life stable before choosing to be with a mate. This way if it doesn’t work out at least they will be able to cover themselves financially. Great comment!

  7. Phew! We women need more men like you!! I find myself needing to do a lot of these things to please a man and it can be draining! Having to make sure your hair is nice, that your face is flawless, that you wear the right outfit! DID I TAKE MY BIRTH CONTROL? Its all draining and its refreshing to see a man writing this! THANK YOU!!

    1. Hi Stephanie! First off thank you for the compliment. Second, i’m glad that you see value in what I was trying to say. I hope that you will stick around for more of my posts on this website. I appreciate your comment!

  8. 😉 Hi Mike,
    You certainly do like controversial topics. I have to agree with you. I am nearly 60 and I have been living on my own for the past 18 years by choice. I am content and happy to be so. I got tired of conforming in my late 30’s and now I live my life as I choose not how I am expected to live. The end result is everyone thinks I am crazy, however, that is the price I am prepared to pay for my happiness.
    Continue to be controversial. The debate is about emotional and intellectual growth and I am all for that. I paid for my freedom with 20 years of marriage that made me miserable.
    Great article!

    1. Hello Coucka! Yes this post is an attention grabber. I’m glad that you finally found contentment. As far as everyone thinking you’re crazy, I’ve been there. But the truth is that deep down they want what you have. Peace of mind. And when you have that you will do everything within your power to make sure that no one will keep it from you. Thanks for your encouraging comment!

  9. Good point in saying that liberty starts in our minds.

    It’s true that both women and men are told how they’re expected to behave from early ages. If we don’t make a pause to understand how we – in fact – feel about those things, we’ll just live to please others.

    Makeup or no makeup, lots of shopping or not at all… (and for men) football or no sports, beer, and bars or going to bed early… these are all things that we, as individuals, have to decide for ourselves and just BE HAPPY!

    1. I couldn’t have said it better myself Eliane. It’s about being happy in your own skin and not looking for society’s approval on how you should live your life. As long as you don’t stifle anyone else’s liberty then that is all that matters. Thanks for the comment!

  10. Hi Mike, great post, and intriguing topic. I do believe that culture, religion, and family orientation have the greatest influence on how women see themselves. I’m all for women liberty as well. But the thing with humans in general, not only women, is that they tend to follow the trend.

    One of the new trends now I suppose is to become an independent woman which causes division and comparison between the two genders. I’m not saying it’s wrong. It’s just that, people fear of being criticized. They shy away from their true selves in order to be accepted as someone they’re not. Men or women, who decide whether we are equal or one is superior or not? It’s us human as well depending on each and everyone’s perspectives. So why not focus on bettering ourselves instead and spreading kindness and refuge to those in need?

    Anyway, the true sense of liberty is very literal. It’s the freedom to choose not based on what should or should not but based on who you want to be. It’s the decision to choose whether she wants a man or not, be sexual or not, shop or not, and put on makeup or not. Same goes for men.

    Great site and posts. Keep it up!

    1. Hello King Kong’s Girl! I am glad that you enjoyed this post. You are correct that humans are accustomed to following the trend. The important thing about being liberty minded is not being concerned with what the herd thinks. As a matter of fact, following the herd can lead to a bad place at times. On top of that, if others can see the benefits that you reap from thinking for yourself, they may be inclined to follow your lead rather than follow public opinion. You made some astute points. Thanks for your comment!

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